Shoulda.Woulda.Coulda.

Well, I said I was going to walk last weekend preparing for the 50 Mile MS Challenge Walk and that didn’t happen.  My friend and sometimes running partner, Kathi White, texted me and asked if I wanted to run six – seven miles on Saturday morning and like a moth to a flame I said of course.  Kathi is ten years my junior, so when I go running with her I know I’m in for a workout.  Plus it doesn’t help to have the Caribbean Cowboy Margarita, with Patron kicker the night before at Texas Roadhouse and an additional glass of red wine while watching a Chris Rock comedy show.

Notice I said sometimes running partner.  It’s not that I don’t want to run more with Kathi, it’s just that I can’t keep up with her all the time.  I do like a good challenge though and my inner child says “let’s go”.  Kathi is the wife of a former Marine and I’m a former Army Officer, so there was no way I was stopping even when she asked me If I wanted to slow down.  Oh no, no way I will die here on the side of the road – and I’ll be happy to do it – oh yes I will.  Hmmm, I wonder if this is an Army/Marine Corps thing – competitive much?  So I ran, and it was a little tough, please revert back to the Cowboy Margarita for further reference, but in good fun because I like a challenge and frankly it just makes me better.

Kathi ran a marathon earlier this year in hopes of qualifying for the Boston Marathon.  When she initially finished she qualified, then told due to an error that wasn’t the case.  Can you believe that?  Just take a minute to let that soak in – 26.2 miles and realizing through error you’re not going.  Really disappointing, but considering what happened at the Boston Marathon this year, I’m glad she didn’t get hurt.

During our runs we talk about a lot of different things.  We will never know if Kathi had qualified and went to Boston what would have happened if anything.  So we talked about the strangeness of just missing tragedy.   Why do these things happen and for some reason we “escape” from tragedy or the “near misses” in life and other times no.  What is the lesson to be learned? Then she said that God had placed in her heart that she will run again in Boston in honor of the 8-year-old boy who was killed in the bombings.  She also mentioned that she wasn’t quite sure why, but she felt strongly about running.  I replied maybe it’s to show strength, courage and the incredible will of the human spirit.  When bad things happen we don’t stop moving forward.  When other people see your determination they will be inspired to follow and do the things that inspire the people in their lives.  We run down this particularly busy road in Belleville, IL and sometimes the drivers are a whole lotta crazy.  It creates a nice loop leading back to our neighborhoods and is flat.  We have plenty of near misses, but that doesn’t stop us from running.  You can’t wake up every morning hoping nothing bad is going to happen, and decide you don’t want to do what it takes to accomplish that dream.  Nor should you hide from the things you want to do or will make you great.  There’s a lot of shoulda, woulda, coulda in life.  What is your shoulda, woulda, coulda?

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